Major life changes like divorce are stressful for all members of the family, including the children. While their lives will change, it is important to minimize the impact. Some of the ways you can minimize the impact of divorce and kids are by keeping the process as civil and simple as possible, being honest with them, and keeping adult conversations between adults.
1. Be honest without oversharing. Kids, like adults, need to understand what is happening with their family without being blindsided. This is especially important when the news is that their parents are getting a divorce. They need to feel secure, understanding how their lives will change, where they will live, and most importantly, that both of their parents love and care about them.
2. Keep adult conversations between adults. Your kids have nothing to do with your divorce which makes it especially important to keep them out of adult conversations. There is never a need to discuss the details of a separation or to speak poorly about the other parent in front of the children. This will only serve to damage them emotionally and hurt your long-term relationship with them.
3. Simplify the process as you can. Not all divorces are contentious, and some don’t even go to court. If you can, settle your divorce through attorneys and mediation rather than court. This will lessen the stress on minor children and yourselves.
At Stuart & Blackwell, we strive to make the process of divorce and other family law issues as simple as possible. We understand there are times when it is necessary to go to court. We promise to represent and guide you through the process, finding a solution for you and your family. Contact us today to learn more.