Many myths surround adoption, and it is often because of these myths that people will be hesitant to proceed with an adoption or even consider the process. It is best to put these myths to rest and avoid any concerns or issues potential adoptive parents may have that are holding them back from making this life-changing and amazing decision.
1. The mother does not love the baby, and that is why she is giving her child up for adoption.
This myth could not be further from the truth. Many times, the mother chooses to give her baby up for adoption because she knows that it is the best option for the child. If a mother is not able to take care of herself and her baby, adoption may be the only safe and stable option available. It actually shows a great deal of love and care and is not an easy decision to make.
2. The birth mother can come back for the baby later.
Potential adoptive parents often fear this possibility that once the adoption paperwork is signed and consent is given, the mother can come back and take back the child. Once the adoption consent is signed, the biological parents cannot reverse their decisions.
3. The birth parents never see their child again after the adoption
Most adoptions are now open to some extent, meaning that the birth mother and the adoptive parents have contact before the child is born, during the adoption process, and even after the adoption is complete. Communication and contact can vary from once a year letters to in-person meetings, depending on the parties and their comfort level.
4. International adoptions are easier
In the past this myth may have been factually-based to an extent, but it is no longer the case. In fact, it is another common misconception that international adoptions are easier than U.S. adoptions. However, several great options exist for American adoptions ranging from adoption agencies to foster care adoptions.
5. Adopted children never know that they are actually adopted.
It is actually healthier for the child to know that they are adopted and understand where they come from than it is to hide the fact that they are adopted. Many adoptive parents choose to tell their children all about their adoptive story, as well as information about their birth families, as the children grow up.
Much more harm can come from hiding the fact from the child only for him or her to discover this major fact as an adult.
6. The birth mothers are paid to place children up for adoption.
In many adoptions, birth mothers do receive compensation for their living expenses or any pregnancy expenses. However, they cannot receive payment for a placing a child for adoption. State laws govern what constitutes living expenses in an effort to avoid making it appear like the mother is being paid to sell her child.
7. Adoption costs too much.
The fear of adoption costing too much can be enough to keep potential adoptive parents from proceeding with an adoption. However, most adoption agencies and private attorneys are willing to work on an adoption budget that works for the prospective parents.
Similarly, assistance does exist for adoptive parent, many times through an employer adoption expense reimbursement programs. Sometimes adopting through the foster care system can be another way of making the costs lower.
Whatever the available options are, adoption agencies and attorneys are willing to work with prospective parents to make their dream of creating a forever family a real possibility. It simply can take some research into what options are out there for these concerns to be eliminated.
If You Are Thinking Adoption, Contact Stuart & Blackwell Today
At Stuart & Blackwell, we understand just how stressful the adoption process can be. We’re here to help you find the path to adoption that’s right for you. Every adoption is as unique as the adoptive parents themselves, but the journey doesn’t have to be harrowing.
We specialize in Arizona adoption law, and we have the experience, knowledge, and compassion to help you welcome your child into your loving home. Contact us at (480) 420 2900 today for your free consultation.