As family law attorneys, we handle emotionally sensitive, and often stressful, situations. Whether it is a family deciding who should adopt the child of another relative, or a couple making the decision to end their marriage, there are often no simple answers. Many times the parties involved will be uncooperative, making it challenging to come to a solution.
Here are 5 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People:
- Understand the Why: Most often people are difficult because they are afraid. They don’t understand what is happening or how to deal with it. Their best way to control that situation is to be unwilling to compromise. At Stuart & Blackwell, we are dedicated to helping you get the resources and knowledge needed to help you through this difficult time.
- Understand the What: Difficult people are often reaction junkies. They thrive on saying or doing things just to get a reaction from other people. It helps to stop reacting when they push your buttons. Even if you’re angry inside, don’t let them see it, it will only fuel their actions.
- Understand the What: They aren’t going to change even if you order them to do so. What you can control is what you know about your family law situation and how you react. Anything else is noise that you can choose to ignore.
- Understand the Why: If your goal is an amicable divorce, then focus on that goal especially if there are children involved. Choose to be amicable, as well as fair, and you will be able to settle your case with the difficult person.
- Understand You’re Not a Superhero: The difficult person is not going to change no matter how much you want or need them to change.
Understanding that difficult people are the way they are and aren’t changing is key to working with them. Keep your goal in mind as you navigate this family law matter. Make choices that are in line with what you want and what is best for the situation and you will come out better at the end.
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